The Relationship

You just got a new boyfriend/girlfriend and they now happen to be the center of your universe. You only talk to them when they're around and you forget about you friends.

Here's a hint:

                                 Are you ready for it. . .

                                                                        You sure. . .

                                                                                                   Okay then here it is. . .

DON'T CUT OFF YOUR FRIENDS!!!Because what happens when you break up with this person or they break up with you. You'll be left without anyone. You'll have to start over from scratch. Of course there are the one's who will stick around no matter what. The ones that care about you and forgives you. But just in case. . . DONT CUT OFF YOUR FRIENDS!!!

Be the same friend that you were before you started dating that person. Don't ruin you friendship over a relationship that may not last forever. You'll regret it in the end.

A Friend of a Friend

Your friend has a friend of their own. A friend of a friend. You find that you don't like them.
Here's some things you shouldn't do:
1) Don't make them choose between you and the other
2) Don't stop being friends with them because of their other friend

Here's some things you should do:
1) Make them understand that you will always be their friend
2) Try to make peace with the friend of your friend

In the end just make sure you tried. Don't lose a friend because you didn't take the right steps or try to do what is best for you and your friend.

Should Your Friendship Influence You

Should your friendship influence you:
Should you change because your friend wants you too. 
Should you lie for them just because their your friend.
Should the quality of grades change because of them.
Should what you do or don't do with drugs change.
Should you change over all.

I can't answer any of these questions. How you let your friend influence you is your decision. If they influence you in a bad way I hope you learn from your mistakes. If they ifluence you in a good way good for both of you. But don't go changing completely because of your NEW friend. Be yourself and find your own way, but don't change because others want you to change. 

But it was a secret!!!!!

You know that thing that you told your friend. You only told three people but it got out anyway. All three said that they didn't tell anyone but you know that it had to be one of them. Well it doesn't matter anyway because now everyone knows. So what do you do.
Well you can just stop telling anyone your secrets even though you're dying to tell someone. Or you can make it pretty clear that what you said was a secret. We've all heard. "I didn't know you didn't want me to tell anyone. You told me so i thought i could tell them."
In the end if it's one of those things that's just dying to get out then there's nothing that you can do. Just be careful what you tell because in this world sometimes there just isn't anyone you can trust.

He Say, She Say.

Two Questions:
1) Have you ever not talked to someone because of what you've heard about them.
2) Have you ever stopped being friends with someone because of what you've heard about them.

Well if you've had then shame on you.
If you've done number one then you've potentially ruined something that can be great. And if you've done number two then you and your friend don't have good communication habits. If you hear something about your friend defend them and then ask them about it. It may not turn out to be true after all or those people may not have all of the details. After you know then you can decide whether to be friends with the person. But never stop because of "Well they said . . . "

The difference of opinions

Everyone is their own person and will never become exactly the same as you. Even twins are their own person. So just because you and your friend don't agree on something doesn't exactly mean you can't be friends. I've been in that fight. I didn't agree and he just couldn't let it go even thought the conversation was done for me. So I ignored him and now we aren't talking. What do you do. Well you take the tips from my previous blogs, use them and then agree to disagree.

 But it's hard to do what you preach.

The First Fight (TFF)

It's your first fight and you think it's the end of the world. You've both said some pretty harsh things that now you wish you hadn't said. Like how much you hated them and wish that you never met them. It's like you broke up and now you're ruined.

But friendships are like on and off again relationships. You break up and then you make up. Prepare yourselves for these fights because they will continue. It's not healthy if you don't fight.

Here's some tips to help you get through the catastrophes:

1) Don't run away from your problems and avoid your friend. If you're mad and afraid you might say something you might regret tell your friend to give you time to cool off.

2) Once you've had time to cool down tell them what's on your mind and what upset you. But don't interrupt one another. Let each other take their time to talk, you'll get the chance to say what you have to say.

3) Let the past be the past. Once you've gotten past it don't bring it up again because your friendship will    then never be the same.